Monday, 24 June 2013

Things to do before getting to 30

Author Unknown#

30 is an important milestone in a woman’s life. It is a very special time in her life. She is at a time when she has left childhood behind and has started enjoying adulthood.

If you are a woman close to your thirties, this is my list of 30 things you should have:

1. An education – This is the best investment you could ever make in your life. Continue learning because as long as you keep learning, you keep growing.




2. A vocation:- In addition to your education, become a professional in your career or area of specialisation.­ Get trained and get the necessary qualifications.




3. A savings account in your own name (and enough money in it) – One of the wisest investments you can make is starting a savings account early. Apportion at least 10% of your earnings to this account and watch it grow.


4. A sense of humor, style and purpose – Humor is very attractive and will get you through some tough patches. A sense of style lets you stand out from your peers and having purpose ensures you pursue your goals with focus.


5. The wisdom to fall in love with your eyes open – Know what you want out of your love relationships and avoid being carried away with the ‘feeling’ of love.


6. The perfect suit to wear for a job interview – As you move higher in life, there’s sure to be numerous job interviews. You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so make sure your suit gives the very best first impression.


7. A set of matching luggage – You may need to go on vacation sometime. Do it in style with your set of matching luggage.

8. A matching set of lacy bikini – Who knows? You may need to relax at the beach when you go off on that vacation or go for a swim anytime soon. Make sure your bikini is just perfect for the occasion.


9. A recipe for a meal you are almost perfect at – Even if it’s something basic, make sure you are almost perfect at preparing one complete meal.




10. A first love (and several other loves) – The magic of first love is as painful when it’s over, but the best part of it is that after you cry your eyes out, you let go and become wiser. And when you love again, you will know how to keep it. This time, longer.



11. A broken heart (and the knowledge that you can survive it) – A broken heart means that you tried…at least. Only time (and girlfriends) can heal your broken heart. You can survive it….and love again.


12. One friend that makes you laugh….and one you can always run to – What can we do without close friends? Make friends for life and be a friend yourself.


13. A childhood you are grateful for (though not perfect) – None of us chose our childhood, but we can be grateful for all it taught us (perfect or not).


14. A plan for the future you are looking forward to – Without a plan for your future, how do you know when you get there? Sit down with yourself and write where you see yourself in 3, 5, 10 years and make a plan to get there.


15. A good skin care routine – Glowing skin is the dream of every woman. But it does not just happen. Get a good skin care regimen that is best for your skin type and watch your skin glow.


16. A good hairdresser – A woman’s hair is her crowning glory. Get a hairdresser who understands your hair and can help you maintain it in the best possible way.


17. A tailor who can make drop dead outfits – The way you dress is the way you will be addressed. Get a tailor who knows what style really is.


18. A spiritual foundation and faith in God – Maintaining a relationship with God is the best foundation for life. He is your creator and redeemer, so get closer to Him each passing day.


19. A drop dead gorgeous photo of yourself - to remind you that you are beautiful.


20. A best friend – If you fall down, your best friend will pick you up. If you need a hand or a shoulder to cry on, your best friend will be there.



21. A dream - it all starts with a dream. Dream! Let your imagination run wild while you fill up a blank sheet of paper with everything you want to be, do or have. This will keep you going even in the tough times.

22. The phone number of someone who will drop everything and come when you call.


23. A perfectly fitted bra - Wearing the right sized bra is comfortable, helps your posture and aids the lymph flow inside your breasts. Also, since your breasts will spend most of their time in a bra, should they not be comfortable?


24. A pair of jeans that fit just right - Most ladies will wear a pair of jeans at least once a week. Jeans can also be worn for informal and semi-formal events. Having one that fits just right would make you stand out from the crowd.


25. A handbag you can never get tired of - Handbags are one of those accessories a lady can’t do without. A nice, reasonably sized leather handbag will always do the trick.



26. An average proficiency in Microsoft Word and Excel – No matter who you are or what you do, you need to be computer savvy. Start with basic Microsoft Word and Excel, but don’t stop there.


27. Confidence – You are a woman. You are important. Carry yourself as one.


28. Humility – Modesty and an unassuming nature are not signs of weakness. Only a very strong and confident person can be humble. Refuse to get puffed up but remain humble.


29. The guts to say No without feeling guilty – People will always need you to do things for them. Do as much as you can but never choke yourself just to please people. Sometimes you just need to say No.


30. A competitive streak: A desire to be the best and to stand out from the crowd. Make yourself more productive so that you remain relevant.


#LessonsFromTheGroundnutSeller


  I was on  a trip and the bus that  I boarded, stopped at filling station to buy fuel.So a groundnut seller exhibited her groundnuts for sale but no one in my bus bought. The woman wasn't discouraged,rather she sat at a corner to tie more groundnuts even if the ones she had on display for sale were yet to be bought and sales were not forthcoming ...now that's Faith in action!

Thursday, 13 June 2013

Dancing and me>>>


While some had to go to school to learn the art, for me it was an innate ability. Back then when I was two years old or so, every Saturday, I would put on my iro and buba then go to my father’s room to dance and make him smile. There was something about music that it had a kind of effect on my body ( mind you,music that appeals to me alone-lyrics, melody and beats). There was hardly any dance competition, end of year parties or ceremonies where I would not draw attention because of my dancing skills. Eventually, I came up tops or among the first two. I could switch on the T.V to watch only dance programmes because it made me updated with latest dance steps and was also a source of inspiration. In my days, it started off with running mad, Cleopatra, flex, MC Hammer, twisting and others. One thing about dance is that it keeps on evolving as new steps keep surfacing.
I look forward to every Thursday after break time in Primary school to go for Choreography class taught by Uncle Victor(wonder where he is and I have searched for him on facebook).He was such a good dance instructor, he had the right the steps for every beat. The class was interesting and enjoyable. It did not take him long to recognise my love for dancing and was placed in the front row. However, I was moved to the back row because of my height.. That was several years ago, anytime I hear songs that had been choreographed, it brings back childhood memories. I recall the steps and make the moves even if it creates a nostalgic feeling. There were other platforms to showcase my talent like the cultural group. It was different from modernised dance; it was deeply rooted in culture and the movements and rhythms are very unique. As much as I wanted to associate with western dance, I still found fulfilment dancing to local beats in local style.
As I progressed from primary to secondary then to the University, somehow I still managed to be visible in anything relating to dance. Now I am all grown up and still growing (though not necessarily physically but mentally, spiritually, socially, financially-YES!!!
Somehow I have noticed my love for dancing has kinda dropped owing to other pressing issues associated with adulthood like pursuit of career, marital life and relationships with people generally. More so, getting older comes with maturity and there are childhood habits that are to be dropped. If I was going to continue dancing, it should be among my circle but people in this circle sometimes do not want to let want to let their hair down. What is of serious concern is my inflexibility. These days I find it difficult to do things that I could easily do-exercise to the rescue. I really want to get my groove back and take dancing to another level. Kaffy is my model in this area. She is a mother but she still fit and doing what she knows how to do best. Dancing is the movement to rhythm or sound. Every culture has its own peculiarities. Some common dances are salsa, pantomime, hip hop, ballet e.t.c. Dancing is a form of exercise. It is a mood booster, form of entertainment and source of income. It relaxes the muscles and eases tension. Dancing is a hobby and would always be!