Showing posts with label Enemies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Enemies. Show all posts

Saturday, 10 June 2017

Why do ''we'' link nocturnal creatures with evil and enemies in disguise?

Saturday, 5 November 2016

Frenemies(Friends + Enemies)




Shuttling from bus to bus is spiced with drama, laughter and irritation. You meet the good, the bad and the ugly. On this fateful day, the bus I boarded had a preacher.We do bump into them occasionally but this particular one struck me with his message.

He was talking about enemies( I used to think Durella and Timaya were the only ones that had enemies because they were all singing about enemies) but it is not so. According to the preacher, people had pictures of their supposed enemies and they raise prayer point against these people. He was like it was better to pray that one is at peace with his maker than pray for ones enemies to die. There was the likelihood that a person may be his own enemy and in turn pray for his/her death or downfall.

Another thing that struck me was how he gave instances of how certain professions were not human-friendly and could be potential enemies. For instance, a doctor income increases with the increase of sick people. His business thrives only in a diseased community, isn't it? The preacher made sense though.

This one is easy to relate with. The guy who sells coffins makes huge profit with the increase in the number of deaths. Does that mean that his prayer point would be for people to die so he would have customers? Your guess is as good as mine. But if he is not available who would make coffins?

Someone like me I am very happy when dollar in creases because international freelancing jobs pay in dollars and that means more money for me. Does that make me an enemy of progress??? Knowing that increase in dollar rates brings inflation in the Nigerian economy. Every Tom, Dick and Harry would want to inlfate the prices of their commodity with the dollar increase trend.

 I saw a display picture that engineering is the only profession that makes profit through solving problems. How true is this? Come to think of it, the lawyer gets busy with increased crime rates, the mechanic's business blossoms with the breaking down of many vehicles. Law Enforcement officials get working with increased crimes. If all the students were brilliant then there would be no need for teachers to teach.

Long and short of this turanchi is that all professions exist to solve a need no matter how critical they appear. And we should be careful who we tag as enemies becuase man might be his own enemy. It is best to be at peace with ones self, Maker and neighbours.




Saturday, 6 August 2016

Battlefield






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Are women their own worst enemies? Well…it is actually subjective but there is the general view that women have issues amongst themselves. When Heaven told me her story, I could not help but wonder why women do not have each others back. The competition is real for who is more beautiful, endowed and accomplished. There would always be a woman prettier, taller, more shapely, more intelligent. No one can win the race in the battle for who has it all in the women folk. There would always be someone ahead and someone behind.


Heaven had narrated how she had gone to submit an application a day after closure.  It was partly her fault but circumstances made her a day late. She had got the information late from her colleagues. The day they went to submit theirs, she was unavoidably absent-on a research mission. Heaven had summoned courage despite her colleagues telling her that it was already late. For Heaven, it was better to try than not to try at all.  The next day, she gathered all her hard copy of credentials, dressed corporately and matched to the office that advertised the vacancy to submit her application.

On getting to the office, the man at the entrance gave her a little hope but another man was kinda haughty and not bulging. The haughty man had directed Heaven to singlehandedly give the application to the woman -in-charge. The other kindhearted man beckoned to him that they should help but his partner was adamant. He even expressed his fears to his colleagues that the woman-in-charge might shout at her for late arrival. In the end, Heaven had to go and meet the "woman" herself as all persuasion amounted to nothing.


The "woman" was exact opposite of Heaven-no weave-on(short natural hair instead), no make up, no earrings, very long skirt…did you know after Heaven explained to the woman the reason for her late submission of the application, the woman literally threw Heaven out. The woman told Heaven to go outside the building. And that was where she attended to her.

Please who does that?
 #GirlsAreNotSmilingFace


While outside, Heaven was muttering prayers that God touches the woman's heart and that she gets to submit the application. When the "woman" came out,she clung to the close door handle and what came out her mouth was without conscience. First of all, her body language was we don't want you here. The woman shut the door. And then she said it was pointless using a flimsy excuse or looking for a criteria that made Heaven unqualified. That's how Heaven left defeated. No mercy from her fellow woman.  Even if she rejected Heaven’s application, did she have to do so crudely???



What do you think? Do women have each others back? Why do we compete with each other? Please share your thoughts, I am itching to hear from you.

Sunday, 19 June 2016

Dear Diary...




Are women their worst enemies? ( ImageCredit: daily.co.uk)


Dear Diary,

Are women their own worst enemies? I heard this somewhere but can't place it.  As rhetoric as the question is, the truth is it still has an answer. Talking with guys, they were quick to admit that women are quick to run one  another down. it is like we have given men the power to alter a woman's countenance, all they have to do is to shower another woman with attention and compliments then you would see how the "other" woman reacts.

 Sometime ago in secondary school, two girls were fighting. Cant really remember what the bone of contention was but it was quite serious because both girls were getting physical.  So a guy stepped in to separate them. He just said something and that was what ended the fight. He was like una dey fight for who chest big pass abi??  Those of us watching busted into  laughter. The two fighters somehow separated and ended their fight.

 Recently, social media went ablaze with the pre-wedding photos of a couple. It was kinda different. The bride-to-be was on the big side and her man opposite. Trust relationship experts, they had already dissecting the outcome of such union. For crying out loud, the groom-to-be had made his choice and went ahead to show the  world. That was a bold move. The comments that poured in were largely from the women folk. Some of them were thought is best for the bride-to-be should slim down or stand the risk of loosing her man. What should have been obtainable would have been to wish the couple the best of marital bliss but some bad belle women took it upon themselves to make scathing remarks.

Daily billboards, magazines, television programmes etc. bombard us with the ideal image of a woman. Some women strive to be a look-alike of what the media has presented to them, forgetting that they can only be a wanna-be or photocopy not the original. Trust me, it is unending struggle trying to be someone else when you can feel free to be the best version of yourself.

Truth is from day one, a woman is being made to attach beauty with values-the beautiful ones land the best jobs, the beautiful ones attract the opposite sex, the beautiful ones get more attention, the beautiful ones are more favoured. Beauty sells, image is basically everything in today's world. Well...beauty is not a bad thing but when it is in form of competition or trying to meet up to a particular standard then wahala dey.

Ayi Kwei Armah had said the beautiful ones are not yet born. That is another debate for another day. I would never estimate the essence of being presentable and beautiful but it is distasteful if the carrier has an ugly heart, rude character and bad manners. Proverbs 11:22 makes it clear that a beautiful woman without discretion is like  a gold ring in a pig's snout. I am a work in progress myself, I would not pretend to know it all. Both content and container are important in branding.

 Naturally it is characteristic of a woman to engage in social comparisons.Women don't need to fight each other over who is more endowed or not, who is prettier or not, who gets more comments and likes....  There is space for every one of us...

 Yours Truly,
  Omote Ro Dhe