Showing posts with label Stingy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Stingy. Show all posts

Thursday, 9 February 2017

Rantings of the youngest child



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 Is it fair?The youngest in the family are usually entitled the smallest share of anything (especially food). Would that be the reason for my seemingly stinginess?  If I have the chance to have a large chunk of food to myself, I do not really mind eating all alone. The very thought of seeing larger shares going to your elder ones requirs discipline. It takes someone contented and disciplined to overlook this. Back then, it got to the point that sometimes I don't follow due process, since I know that I would take the least share , why bother? I will just carry my two legs and take what is mine (the smallest) and go quietly.

 As a toddler, I did not notice this trend but as I grew older it became an issue. It was either I do not look at my older ones share lest I feel bad or I just swallow my grievances and enjoy whatever I was offered.   That I became programmed to take the smallest share of everything in the house. I just naturally believed anything small was mine, no dispute.  That was how my mind was programmed. What ever was small and least belonged to me.

My parents are staunch believers of culture and tradition.  It is even very strict and more enforced judging that they both elder ones in their family so they have younger ones. That means they really do not understand what it means to be the youngest.

They believe that there must always be demarcation between the oldest and youngest. I actually grew up to the tunes of you are the youngest, are you mates? Why do you crave for the lion share of everything, don't you know that you are the youngest? And the likes.

Sometimes I wonder if tradition could be broken and may be equity and equality is allowed. Would that give room for disrespect?  In a way, probably so and in another way, probably not.If I had the same thing as those older than me does that really mean we were on the same level? It is not the case of knowing your place and giving respect to whom respect is due.

Some homes do not see this tradition as a big deal. While some prefer that older ones would give part of their shares to the youngest, others allow the youngest to do the sharing for the older ones to make their  choice. I do not know sha but I would definitely understand the plight of my youngest child knowing that I have gone through the tradition and survived. It taught me to be contented, may be stingy and put others need before myself.


Wednesday, 3 February 2016

Stereotyping...a human thing?


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 Take a good look at the picture above. You have already formed stereotypes without blinking twice. The guy in the left would appear to you as someone  obviously into drugs because of his dress sense and looks. On the other hand, the guy in the right would strike as a banker or  a lawyer or any white collar job person. Reason that he is wearing a suit. But he could also be into drugs but the suit has formed a stereotype already.

We just cant seem to get over forming stereotypes. I think it is part of human beings. Sometimes it is wrong , other times it is true. It just kind of guides the way one would accept the other person... Other stereotypes that I have come across are listed below:

 Supposing a lady all made up with long nails and short dress should start preaching in a bus, people would raise eyebrows because they have formed stereotypes that she can not be "born again" whereas if another lady covers her head and is dressed in " mary amaka" one might be tempted to believe that she is really a brethren#Stereotypes

It is usually assumed tall guys are basketball players. Well...you might be surprised  that he is no where near  Michael Jordan.

 Another one is that ladies with beard are very wicked. Apparently it is like I have beards ( just three or four strands down my chin). Didnt even know until one guy drew my attention to it when we were discussing one day like that and ever since then the blade had been my best buddy weekly. But I am not wicked  that I am certain of.

And that any politician/government official /police with pot belly is corrupt, really?

Guys who have several foldings at the back of their head(kpomo) must be very wealthy. It is assumed that they amassed so much wealth that it had  gone to form folds at the back of his head. Please do you research and lemme know if it is true.

 This one is standard- Ijebu people are tightfisted. I have been in the midst of people from this part of the country and I think it holds oo. They don't like waste and dropping money is always an issue.

Edo people are into voodoo. Hmmm...Every Nigerian tribe virtually has witches and wizards but it looks like their headquarters is in....

Ibo people and money go together.  The Ibo people are so money conscious. Don't blame them, money makes the world go round. I am not Ibo but I like money too or don't you?

Other stereotypes include:
-Calabar girls make good cooks

-All bus conductors are school dropouts

-All tall girls are models

-Short people are aggressive and don't like intimidation

-Warri no dey carry last

-People from Ondo/Ekiti are very learned

-Left handed people are very brilliant...well, i  have not confirmed but so I heard. And then...

People who wear glasses are intelligent and first class materials. This one is very deceitful. Back in college, I was drawn to guys who wore glasses because I assumed they were very brilliant. Some people have developed tactics and started wearing glasses to create an illusion and impression to people....At a point, I wanted to wear glasses by force.

 How about every young unmarried woman in church prayer point is for God to give her husband. I mean there are other things that are pressing her like her business, visa, promotion,employment, money, a car, traveling abroad, education ...must it be that all she wants in life is just a husband???

 Please are there other stereotypes you can think of? Lets share....