Showing posts with label Twitter. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Twitter. Show all posts

Tuesday, 23 May 2017

Picking up the broken pieces


Photo credit: Oko's Blog

These things  normally happen in Nollywood but no, it was live. It happened to her. It was either the guy breaks the lady’s heart or vice versa and then the  hurting one goes mad or life becomes meaningless. She neither went mad nor lost her life purpose but she felt dejected.”

They say that time is meant to heal wounds but she was unsure if she would get over knowing that her ex just tied the knots. Yes! He just made her know she was history while his wife was his present and future.
She had  had big hopes that he would return. It was her belief that they were destined to be together. They had a lot in common. They were namesakes, from the same tribe, attended Sunday school together and the attraction was there.

However, she had pushed him to the wall ignoring his constant complaints of  her annoying behaviour. To her, he would forgive her as he always did. One day, he told her that he was no longer interested in the relationship. She thought he was joking. This was the same guy who confessed to love her always regardless. May be she banked on his forgiving nature that she forgot that he was human and would have breaking points. Then, it dawned on her that she was no more his priority, his bae, his woman and his heart.

It broke her heart. For nights she cried and cried, tried to make amends through various means and channels. She went through his siblings but to no avail. She went through his mentors and friends instead they advised her to moved on that she had stretched him beyond limit.

How would she live without him? No more calls? No more chats? No more outings? No more gists? No more planning together for the future? No more visitations ? No more games? No more eating together? No more laughing together?No more pictures together? No more praying together? No more….she could go on and on….

She thought she should give him some time probably he would come around. However, things turned out for the worse. It was like she was so obsessed with him. The more she tried to win him over, the more he withdrew. He resorted to blocking her on all social media platforms when she constantly tried to communcate with him. Facebook blocked. Whatsapp blocked. LinkedIn blocked, too. Okay, he was not on twitter. Then he stopped picking her calls.

The silent treatment nearly drove her nuts but she had something else that she had to hold on to or else her life seemed meaningless. She just got admission for a Masters degree. Would she allow the heartbreak to allow the opportunity to further her studies slip away? No! She had her education to fight for too. She would still go back to school, with a broken heart though. Also, she had a career in line, she could not allow her emotions get the better part of her and allow her career suffer.

Althrough her studies and career, she was hoping that one day, he would come back and say ”I am sorry, let’s start over again” and then that one day came and she got the biggest shock of her life. She found that he was now married. Thanks to social media and other sources. She could not believe it. It should have been her in the picture with him? But No, she was not.

Wow! First it was the denial stage. She said to herself that the woman in the picture with him could not be his bride probably a friend but pictures don’t lie. She had to admit the lady appeared beautiful but was the direct opposite of her in terms of physical appearance. It was far from friendship, this picture revealed they were life partners.

First impulse was to scream but instead she sent a congratulatory message to him hoping he would read it. He had completely blocked her from his life. Sadly, they had parted ways in the most bitter manner. No form of reconciliation or making peace with ones past girlfriend(s) as some guys do before tying the knot. (Most guys are guilty of this, when they are about to get married they start calling ex-gilrfirends to make peace so that they dont go with baggage into their marriage.)

Back to her story. It has been three weeks since she got to know that he was now married. She had lost weight and the pain in her chest was excruciating.
” Will you die because of one guy?” came one advice” Remember, if you die because of a man, many better finer men would pass by your grave and say ”omashe oo”’

If not for support from family and friends, she would have been a shadow of herself. She craved for encouragement as a newborn crave for breastmilk from the mother. The future looked bleak for her. This was someone she dreamt of the future with. Would she forgive herself for stretching him too far? Would she get over her regret?Would she find someone better than him? Does she need to revenge and let him know that he has no control of her happiness? Would she continue to stalk him on social media and give him the power to hurt her the more? These and many more questions filled her mind that she barely knew the answers to.

Her career was at stake and she still hopes to further her education. She was not ready to throw all her aspirations away even though the man she thought she loved was now married to someone else. She would just take a day at a time, her life was very precious to be wasted in regret.
As she wished him well in all his endeavours, she also muttered a prayer to her God that their parts never crossed and that she looks back at this phase in years to come and have a very good laugh because she thought she would never get over it.

Tuesday, 24 January 2017

16 types of people you find on social media



Image credit: geekers magazine




Social media is community on its own. It could be addictive. It could be enlightening. It could also be depressing and also funny. It has its  fair share of  pains and gains. Hardly would a day pass without social media drama and jibes.

 People use social media for different reasons; some to relax and others to be updated with latest news. Some even use social media to catch-up with old friends and so on. 

However, there are people that are not even into social media and surviving and getting their grooves on - Respect to them!

That being said, here is my list of certain people that you find on social media and they include:

1. The stalkers
These set of people love going through people's pages to know what they have been up to, where they at and who they are with? I think the exes mostly fall into this category. Stalkers are also diehard fans of celebrities, the people who are crushing on someone and enemies too fall in this category - they want to know if you doing better than themselves.

2. The opportunist
These people don't waste time. They use social media for business activities. They have something to sell, an idea or skill, they put it up on social media. No time for play play, it's strictly business.

3. The jokers
Their motto is life is too short to wear a frown. They are always making jokes online. Is it updates, memes, breaking news or photos, they are just too hilarious. We need them after a long stressful day.

4. The oppressors
Shout out to the ride or die chics/guys out there. Today it's dubai, tomorrow it's a boat cruise in the Caribbean. They rocking latest designers wear. From head to toe, they smell money. To add to your envy, they seem to get all the likes and comments... Phew!

5. The family-oriented
To them family is everything. They appear to have the perfect life with lovely partner, cute children, good jobs and all. You really admire them and sometimes feel envious when they start posting pictures of their family and all.They should be #FamilyGoals.

6.The over schooled
As much as you try to understand what they are posting, you cannot seem to get grip of the direction/message of their post. Their analyses are too complex spiced with big grammars. Most times it is to waka pass or scroll down.

7.The boring
They are better off keeping quiet because your reaction to their posts would be like Duh! So what's this one saying now???

8. The motivators
They are always posting inspiring messages and sermons. You need them in your spiritual walk so as not to backslide.


9.The Atheist
They believe there is no God and religion has been and would always be an issue for them. They open to debates on whether there is God oo or no God.

10. The silent
I'm still trying to understand this people. No profile picture, no posts but they are always online. Ladies without any form profile picture  are major culprits. Why the hidden identity??? Something fishy or they have their reasons best known to them.

11. The news breakers
Even before CNN gives the breaking news, these set of people know what's happening are the first to dish trending news. They have their ears to the ground and don't slack. They have their niches be it sports, local news, entertainment, movies, foreign news. Some are well rounded.

12.The competitors
When someone posts a photo, they would post their own. If someone makes a comment, they make their own too. To this people, it is more  of a competition than a social platform of people. 

13.The favour seekers
They bug you with endless pleas for favours and most times it is for financial assistance. You won't blame some in need of jobs and so they deem it best to disturb influential people for assistance.

14. The post and delete
When nobody comments or likes their posts, the next thing is to delete it sharp sharp. I think they are controlled by people's reactions.

15. The noise makers
They bombard your time line with their posts and photos as if they are the only ones in your friend lists. Sometimes you wonder if this person has a life outside social media.

16. The rude ones
These are the people that are too lazy to type or communicate effectively. Someone is celebrating her/his birthday instead of typing '' happy birthday'' instead they type '' hbd'' and the likes. You know now! They are experts in short-hand.

Did I leave any other set? Please join the conversation