Thursday, 13 September 2018

Can Nigeria have a Female President?






Angela Merkel, Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf, Cristina Fernandez de Kirchner, Dilma Rousseff, Kolinda Grabar-Kitarovic, Michelle Bachelet, Theresa May.....the list goes on. They are all women and what do they have in common, they are world leaders!

So the question is when would we have a woman lead Nigeria? Living in a highly patriarchal society, the women have been made to been only seen and not heard. They are marginalised even though they make up about 49.5% of the population. This ideology is rooted in cultural backgrounds, religions and traditions. We must not forget that Nigeria in past eras, had seen the likes of Queen Amina, the warrior who subdued states in the 14th century, Queen Luwoo, the female Ooni and Queen Idia, the first Queen Mother of the ancient Benin Kingdom take on the mantle of leadership.

From  the colonial era till now, women who take on leadership roles are still considered to be going against the fundamental norms of their communities.Thankfully, they are going past those limitations and conquering their territories. We have had women vice chancellors in the person of Grace Alele Williams and the likes. We have had women senators,e.g Patricia Etteh, governors e.g Dame Virginia Etiaba,(though short-lived was remarkably brave) ministers  and others.

However, the ratio of women to men in politics is still low. According to statistics, out of 1534 elective positions available at the national and state levels, women occupied only about 86 while men had 1449. This indicates that the difference between women and men actively participating in politics was 89%!

No wonder the Million women, a non-profit and non-partisan political community of women seeks to promote, improve and institute the participation of more women in elective and appointive offices. They organised a 2-day event for women vying for political positions. Different seasoned speakers such as Ini  Abimbola, Monday Michael Achibogu,  Adebisi Matthew among others, well-grounded and knowledgeable about Nigerian politics, spoke on topics ranging from elections, women in politics, fundraising, perception of women in politics, propaganda, sustainable grassroot intervention and more.

My key takeaway points at the trainng includes:
  • Start early, get involved
  • Register your PVC
  • Start by touching lives in your community
  • Women who go into politics are stereotyped to be widows, single women, harlots, divorcees and it is not the case. These women are more or less change agents, pursuing national interests.
  • Think of your interest, motive and conduct when vying for political positions.
  • Politics is not a game, it is a war
  • Don't contest for elections as woman, go as a candidate, drop gender
  • Learn the act of negotiation
  • Be dogged
  • There is no sentimentality in politics
  • Read books like 48 Laws of Power
  • Understand the power of words and persuasion
  • Dress accordingly to the target voters
  • Be ruthless in your decision and merciless in your distribution
  • Uncertainties is the best time for women to thrive
  • Demystify everything , allow facts outweigh myths
  • Politics can't be done without propanganda
  • Learn to fly kites that won't come back yo you, ensure your fingers don't get burnt in the process
  • Start by serving
  • Never make assumptions
Having said that, I leave you with this quote below:





Sunday, 19 August 2018

11 Types of People you find in the Marketplace


photo credit: The Trent



I  devised a strategy when going shopping in the marketplace- you don't dress too expensively less the seller would use that to determine your worth.  It actually works most times because the seller tends to increase the prices of her/his wares after she/he 'sizes' you up to know whether he/she made a good catch.

Interestingly, I buy things impulsively sometimes. At other times, it could be deliberate. When It falls into the later, I just deck up a tee shirt, shorts or trousers as it were and slippers and dash to the market. That way, the seller might not be able to tell or have an idea of your kind of person.

Funnily enough, it is at such times when I am 'too casual' that I get to meet people  I know on the way. It is annoying that times when you put so much effort into your dressing and look 'glammed up', you don't get to see familiar faces and nobody tends to notice.

Well, the essence of the casual look is to get a good bargain and not come off too wealthy less the seller uses it against one.

In the marketplace, I noticed that there are certain people you find. See them below and identify your category ;)


1. The Window Shoppers
These people have no intentions of buying anything. They are just there to know the prices of commodities. Hoping from stall to stall,  shop to shop, they inquire the cost of goods and services as it were. And off they go!


2. The 'No Time' Shoppers
They buy from their port of call-the very first seller they meet. They don't have time to go around the market, comparing prices and standards of goods or commodities. They usually leave the market in a jiffy. They get there, get want they want and disappear.


3. The Prudent Shoppers
These ones take time. Unlike the 'No time' shopper, they go from stall to stall, comparing and bargaining prices of commodities, ensuring that they make the best bargain and get value for their money.


4. The 'Lazy' Shoppers
They would prefer to send someone else to do their shopping for them. In some cases, you have to lie that you are not available or going to the market or they would cajole you to help them to do 'small' shopping for them. These set of people also have errand boys and girls that can do their shopping for them.


5. The Online Shoppers
They belong to the new school. they are conversant with the latest technologies. They have all the apps for online shopping. Everything is done online from shopping to payment to delivery. They live in a fast-paced environment and cannot be tied to traditional methods.


6. The 'Forgetful' Shoppers
They forget their list and end not buying all they wanted to buy. At times, they buy want is unneeded and other times, go out of budget.


7. The 'Sharp' Shoppers
They have a programmed memory. They do not need any list. They have everything in their memory. They are so used to going to the market that they do not need to scribble down any list.


8. The 'Mall' Shoppers
For them, they prefer going to the mall to buy what they need than go to the market. They have the advantage of dodging the harsh weather condition, be it rain or sunshine. The only issue they may face is long queues during peak periods of sales.


9. The 'Regretful' Shoppers
Have you ever bought something, only to find better ones or fresher ones (in terms of perishable commodities)? Well, then you fall into these set of people. It is usually wise to 'sample' all corners of the markets to search for the best to get the best.


10. The 'Undecided' Shoppers
They are usually indecisive. They do not how to choose what they want. Most times, they prefer going with someone more 'experienced' in shopping to help them in making their choice.


11. The 'Persuaded' Shoppers
These set of people like being persuaded to buy stuff. If the seller does not beckon to them or persuade them, forget it, they would not be moved to buy anything.

Having said these, which shopper are you or which one did I leave out?

Wednesday, 15 August 2018

When people only reach out when they want to borrow money


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It's been quite a while since she last reached out to me. Before then, I had been the one doing the reaching out severally just to check up on her to know her welfare and all. I literally gave up my move to rekindle our friendship. All of sudden, out of blues, she reached out to me. And it was because she wanted to borrow money, imagine? It was only when she needed help that she deemed it necessary to reach out.


We had got to know ourselves as undergraduates of the same university. We had come from the same department. We also stayed in the same hostel, so we got pretty close. Then, she could borrow my slippers and I could also borrow her clothes. No one would suspect foul play. However, we seemed to drift apart after graduation. It is obvious distance, family, work, probably lack of shared interests created the communication barriers.




Maybe  she is too preoccupied with her work. Or something was just taking most of her time? What I consider annoying how they reach out to you out of blues when it gets critical for them. But must it be that it only when she needs help that she remembers the other person exists? It is gratifying to be that person that one would 'sees as the Central bank' in the face of a need or an emergency. However, it does not erase the fact that you are in a way 'being used'.  



On this fateful day, she kept bombarding me with calls.  Can you relate to these certain calls and messages that you are kind of unresponsive to? These calls and messages just tell you 'they' want to take from you or need your help.  



While I was hoping that nothing went wrong, just as I was a hundred percent sure that Caro needed some money most likely. Having been observing her trend, I became accustomed to her calling only when a need arises before everything turns back to status quo. Picking up my call, I exchanged pleasantries with her and then she dropped the bombshell.


"Please they are owing money in my workplace, can you raise me some money?,"
"Just a moment, please, let me get back to you "I responded and stuck to my words.



Later on that day, I got to know that she needed money to settle "pending debts for an ongoing project". According to her, her clients were also owing her some money for some months which made her run into debts. No wonder she needed to source for money badly.




I am also reminded of a family member- an aunt. If we were to give an award for busyness, she would take home several. She does not just have time. But when she needs someone to go on errands, then she remembers she has a 'younger sister' somewhere.





These 'set of people' who only reach out in the phase of need could be family members, friends or even relatives. They only get to contact you when they need your help. Most times, it is for financial assistance, other times it is because you fit the perfect description to render the solicited help.


With so many things that one seems to occupy ones time, it might be fair to not blame the other person for lack of care and neglect. Besides these days, everyone seems so cut up with the rat race that they rarely have time for themselves talk less of family or even friends. So should she be excused for her behaviour? This goes without saying that people still strive to make out time for those they care about despite their busy schedule.




When human relationships are parasitic, one party ends up being used. I think that even if there is nothing to say, and an encouragement and information or pleasantries would do just fine.





In the words of Rick Warren; "people who only contact you when then need something are acquaintances not friends."





Let me add this, she is kind of not happy with me. The money she is requesting for is beyond my 'capacity' but she won't accept. I really wish I had the money that people think I have, then I could have done a little bit better.




And I followed what a wise man once said: "You should not borrow money you can't give away."By doing so, it won't pain you too much if the borrower can't pay up on the day of repayment. And you can be rest assured that it could have passed for a gift so you don't mind. Meanwhile, I am awaiting my repayment from her.

Wednesday, 4 July 2018

#MacronInLagos: 7 Takeways from President Macron's visit to Nigeria




Photo credit: @asaofficial
History was made when French President, Emmanuel Macron paid a visit to Nigeria. The 39-year-old, who became the youngest president in the history of France, was delighted to be hosted by Nigerians. As we awaited his arrival, all was set to make an indelible impression on the French president. 

His first port of call was at Aso rock where he met with President Buhari. Of course, this visit to the most populous country in Africa would have been incomplete without  'touching' the center of excellence- Lagos State. The meeting point was the New Afrika shrine in the heart of the Ikeja, the state's capital. 

In an event tagged as 'A celebration of African culture' being hosted by Nigerian singer, Banky W, the French president in the company of the Lagos State governor, Akinwumi Ambode played the guests. Surrounded by music enthusiasts, Nigerian celebrities, diplomats, the media, the shrine was lit up to the highest climax of entertainment and infotainment. 

With thrilling performances from the artistes particularly from Femi Kuti, son of the Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, the afrobeats legend, guests were held spellbound by the quality of good music and live performances. 

It was not just another occasion for merriment. It was also a good time to establish contacts and make lasting networks. To the fashion conscious, it was time to make fashion statement. Trust Nigerian celebrities, who were present, they 'did not fall' hand, they didn't not only make their presence felt, they made their fashion statements. Notable among them was Genevieve Nnaji, Omotola Jolade-Ekeinde, Joke and Olu Jacobs, Rita Dominic, Ramsey Nouah, Desmond Elliot, Alexx Ekubo to mention a few who came decked up in different stylish attires.


The French president's visit to Nigeria left many imprints and they include:
-Nigeria reclaims its place in the world map not as the known corrupt and 'Shit-hole' country that it has been linked to but as a nation of hardworking and accommodating citizens, who are open-minded and industrious enough  to establish ties with their foreign counterparts

-In essence, the bilateral ties between France and Nigeria would become stronger. French investors would have no issues in doing business in Nigeria and vice-versa. With this integration, all barriers and limitation to trading and business ventures are now broken. Basically, free trade zones have now been established.

- Tourism, a thriving sector of the economy is being tapped into. Ever since, crude oil was discovered and became the mainstay of the Nigerian economy,other sectors suffered neglect. However, the French president's visit to Nigeria particularly to the Africa shrine has shown that tourism is very lucrative venture that can attract and serve tourists from far and wide .


- It has made Nigerians appreciate and embrace their culture more. With the introduction of westernization, the African culture, arts and music became relegated to the backseat. However, the French president's visit has made us to value and appreciate our culture more besides it  is our pride and identity.

- He serves as a big inspiration to the younger generation. It was gathered that before he became president, he worked as an intern in the French Embassy in Nigeria in the early 2000s before becoming the number one citizen of France. In other words, "if you can make in Nigeria, you can make it anywhere".


- With Nigeria housing over 180 million people and producing two million barrels of crude oil per day, this is an indicator to France that the country is a key economic partner for business investments and opportunities.


- A major merger between Nigeria and France to fight insurgency facing the former has been established and is another visible result of President Emmanuel Macron's visit.

Please add yours******

Monday, 11 June 2018

LUXURY LINGERIE BRAND, SSHHH LAUNCHES ITS FIRST ABUJA STORE




Leading Lingerie brand, SSHHH Boutique Ltd announces the opening of its first store in Abuja to meet growing demands for exquisite and affordable lingerie in the region. The store exudes sensuality and feminine prowess, definitely a first of its kind for Abuja!



The craftsmanship of every piece of lingerie at SSHHH is impeccable which makes them desirable to all women.  The 64 square-foot Boutique top sellers are foremost high-end brands representing beauty, comfort and durability.


The SSHHH Brand, which already has a store in the heart of Lagos, carries brands that are sultry, has feminine allure, and intricate details in redefining the African woman's sensuality through innovative and cutting-edge products.



Joy Adesanya, CEO of Sshhh boutique, commented that: "We look forward to becoming members of the local Abuja community and building our reputation as lingerie experts, with exceptional customer service in a lush boudoir atmosphere both to the locals and international visitors on holiday in the city”.  




Find fashionable and fully supportive Bras, Luxurious Sleepwear, Effective Shapewear, Hosiery, Swimwear and lots more from “In Demand” Nigerian and International designers such as Coco De Mer, Mimi Holliday, Bluebella, Nubian Skin, Bfyne, Andrea Iyamah, Curvy Kate, Magic body Fashion, Va Bien, Vedette and Revel Lingerie most of which are exclusive to the store in Nigeria and Africa, SSHHH remains the one-stop center for lingerie in the Country.





Located at Ruby Center, Amino Kano Crescent, Wuse II, SSHHH will officially open to the public today June 11, 2018. Business hours will be 10am - 7pm, Mondays through Saturdays. 

All customers are invited to view our various collections, sip, shop, enjoy free gifts and 10% off all purchases made between 11th and 16th June, 2018.
Facebook: @sshhhlingerie
Instagram: @sshhhlingerie
Twitter: @sshhhlingerie
Interiors designed & executed by @interiorculturebyobiageli
Photographer: @thecannonphotography
Store Number: 080 989 77774




Sunday, 10 June 2018

"Awoof dey run belle"




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What do you make out of a situation where you get to pay less than the original price? Probably a rare offer to jump at quickly? Or do you rush at the offer or pause to weigh your options before making a choice?


Sometimes having to pay less than the original price ( what we call 'Awoof') might not necessarily be a bonanza spree. It might be another bait to dupe unsuspecting customers. And as the saying goes, 'Awoof dey burst belle' which when translated means freebies/cheap things do not give optimum satisfaction or pleasure.
In essence, the beneficiary does not get to enjoy what he/she paid for in true sense after all.



My conclusion is based on some experiences proving that  it is better to go for quality and pay higher provided you enjoy what you paid for than pay less then end up spending more.


Forget Monday morning runs, Sunday morning runs also holds in this part of the world. Ever since church service included a special early morning series on finance, I deemed it necessary to attend all the series. Normally, I would have taken my time and gone for other later services where I would have time to dress up, makeup, eat and stroll into service.


However, the introduction of early 7 a.m finance series with top seasoned speakers in their fields giving financial insights, got me on my toes. Throwing away all my conveniences, I became more disciplined to make it all for the special Sunday series. After all, they said that the secret of great men is in their stories. Being an area, I would say I was kind of struggling with, I just had to make sure that  I attended all the series, learn and applied my learning. No data to burn to watch videos or money to buy tapes. I believe there is an anointing that comes with physical presence.  And that was my motivation.


I had two options: cab services or public transport. I opted for the later.  Don't ask me why. Early Sunday morning, the sleep was so sweet, I wished I would have continued but my alarm clock in the opposite room was disturbing. I had to get up to shut it up, that is how the sweet sleep left instantly. Preparation for Sunday service started immediately. Thankfully, I was done in the nick of time, I was sure I would get to church in time.



Everything was going well from when I got to the bus stop until I saw several buses beckoning me to fill up their seats. With so many bus conductors persuading the available passengers, I decided to go with the one with an unusual 'abnormal' low fare. First of all, this driver was taking time to leave the bus stop, he made sure his bus got completely filled with passengers. As I sat patiently without complaining, I felt satisfied that in the long run, I would have some change to keep.


Then, the  journey commenced and the normal tradition of transport fares were being collected by the bus conductor. All was going on well until the bus abruptly stopped on the way!


Without apologising to his passengers for the inconveniences caused, the bus driver came down from bus to change his tyre. Who does that? I mean, he knew quite well that he had a bad tyre but went ahead to carry unsuspecting passengers, no wonder the bus fare was 'unusually abnormally low' and we fell for that bait.


It was unwise to demand a refund, after all, on a normal day, the money paid was enough to take one to where the bus stopped. I could not wait for the bus driver to change his flat tyre; remember I  had a Sunday series to catch up in church. I jumped down from the bus and sharply looked for another. I ended up paying twice the normal bus fare based on my calculation. If I had followed my instinct, I would have paid once and for all and saved some money!


This brings back to another experience. As an undergraduate, I needed a pen to some assignments.  I got duped in broad daylight by the pen seller. She was selling a pack of pen(of a brand I have never heard). After tactfully convincing me to buy them, I ended buying the unidentified pen brand. To start with, she gave me one that was writing to test its effectiveness and that how I swallowed her bait.


It would have made more sense if I gently went for my bic pen but no I wanted a cheap one.  In my mind, I would have enough change to  buy other stuffs. In the end, the pack of pen bought were useless, had to buy another set and that meant spending more.

Would you go for quantity over quality? Do you jump at every offer without weighing your options? Do you follow your instincts or go with the crowd? One has to be careful because 'Awoof really runs belle" True or False?

Sunday, 22 April 2018

Why do women dress up? For themselves, men or other women?

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One debate I find worrisome is the issue of  women dressing solely to attract a man?  Based on their status, it has been concluded that they do dress up only with the expectation of attracting the opposite sex.Why should this be the case? Can't a woman just dress the way she pleases provided it is not provocative?


Some time ago, an aunt, who came visiting, was literally dressed to kill. She was fully made up with her hair was on fleek. Now, this aunt was still single then. Side talks flowing from all corners said that she was dressing to 'sell her market' no wonder she was 'packaging'. 'Packaging' or not, she wanted to look good and feel good, so she owed no-one an explanation or apology.



How about married women? On a television programme I watched recently, most of the married women who called in to speak on the matter, said that they were basically dressing for their husbands.(On the flip side, there have been reported cases where at the dating stage, the woman remains hot and steps up her dressing game but after the marriage, she seems to care less of how she looks anymore). There have also been some conclusions that there are certain ways married and single women should dress.


A co-worker came to work agitated. I noticed she was not her usual self so I asked her what the problem was.  It was then she started narrating to me how she how the bus conductor has harassed her because of her clothing. According to her, the bus conductor had accosted saying that she should not be wearing a short gown after he sighted her wedding band. He added that such wears should be for single women and not someone of her status. She was confused as she was there anything wrong with her dressing? I replied that she should take it as one of those days; she should not take it too personally. Funny enough, the short gown was bought by her husband, case closed.



At times I wonder whether it is only married woman who should wear only loose clothes and the likes. Then the skin-tight dresses are for her single counterparts? And if she tries to switch then that makes her irresponsible or what?


What is the real essence of dressing? Basically, if it suits and complements one looks, one should go for it regardless of one's marital status.  With the woman created for the glory of man as revealed by the Holy Book, that appears to be another indicator that a woman's desire might just be for the man only. Besides, men are visual beings, so it is most likely that women who just want attention would do so by their through her dressing?!


How about other possible cogent reasons for dressing up? We must not forget that looking good is good business. It does not necessarily require breaking a bank but it just requires the right combination, knowing what suits one, the carriage and the personality of the person rocking the outfit.


There are other reasons why an unmarried/married woman would want to make a fashion statement. It might be that she is very passionate about fashion. What we would call a slay mama aka fashionista. It might also be to make her presence felt or leave a lasting impression with her adornments. She might also be dressing based on the climatic and environmental condition(even though at times you wonder how a lady would wear a sleeveless lacey gown in a fully air-conditioned room?)


A woman would also dress for identification based on her sex, occupation and status. One major reason any woman would want to  dress up is to cover her nakedness, after all, we have gone past the time in garden of Eden. Sometimes, she might be overdressed, other times she is underdressed; the rule of the game is to be modest. If fashion is her thing, then let her express herself the best way she can especially when she can afford it and has the body and confidence to rock it. It is not all about attracting the men. Personally, I do so for myself and to compete with other women.  Do you dress for yourself, other women or men?

Did I shake any table? ):