Showing posts with label Academics. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Academics. Show all posts

Wednesday, 6 December 2017

11 Types of people you find in libraries



Who says the library is only for the 'Efikos' aka Nerds? It is 'home' to different set of people. Do you know that there are basically different sets of people you find in the library on different missions?

 During examination period, the library is usually flooded with students and getting a seat could be quite difficult. This is not the case on normal days.


While some libraries are nothing to write home about, others are up to standard and world class. Besides being a building for reading, research and getting information, the library might just be another haven to get away from all the noise particularly if your roommates are the noisy type.


In a typical library, here are the types of students you are likely to find below:

1.Those who are there to keep space
Their books are kept to maintain their spaces. These students would never use to library yet they would keep space. It is either they are going for class or somewhere else. Instead of allowing someone else who is very much around in the library to use it, they would use their books and materials to deceive people that they are coming back.


2.Exam freaks
It is only during examination period that these set of people remember that they have library cards. They would be the first to resume with the library workers and the last to close with them.


3.The Sleepers
These set of people cannot 'come and kill themselves' because of school work. Just a book and they are off to dream land. The good thing about this set of people is that they leave the library like every other student feeling that they have read enough and made good use of their time.


4. The phone chargers
They are always with extensions and their phone/laptop chargers. Since most times, electricity supply is usually constant in the library, these set of people see as a good opportunity to boost the battery lives of their 'dying' devices.


5. 'I was here' inscriptors
They mostly belong to the final year students who about to graduate. In other to make their presence felt, they would write their names on the library walls, seats and desk just to show they were there indeed.


6. Food smugglers
There are rules in the libraries and one of them is not to smuggle food to eat there. These set of people, probably foodies, would hide sweets, biscuits, chewing gum, groundnuts, chocolates and the likes to eat in the library. On sighting any library official, they hide their faces less they are caught eating and sent out.


7.Attention seekers
Slay mamas, Pepper dem gang, beard gang and every other fashion conscious individual fall into this category. You might be forced to turn your eye from your book to look at them. If you are very disciplined and don't want to be distracted, their perfume might hit you and you would have no option but to look up.


8. The Oppressors
They always have the latest edition of books and materials. They also oppress with the latest gadgets and laptop. They are solely in th library for the competition. If you don't know why you can to the library, you might end up comparing yourselves to them.



9. Those there for the freebies
They also recognise opportunities and make the best us to of it. Is it free newspaper? Or the encyclopaedias? Or free browsing sections? Not forgetting WiFi? Yes, for Internet connection to download all the necessary and unnecessary.


10. Rule breakers
The library is meant to be as quiet as a graveyard, phone calls and other form of noisy activities are prohibited. However, these set of people would still be caught making phone calls and gisting, imagine!


11. Those that never go to library 
They have never set their legs into the library yet you wonder how they stil manage to get straight As. These are the same people that say they have not read and the gullible ones believe them and tag along not knowing they burn the midnight oil soaked in their books!

Having said this, which one are/were the you? Or which one did I leave out?

Sunday, 3 September 2017

Is it impossible for parents to not play favourites?

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 Do parents actually show favoritism to a particular child? Psychologists claim that parent show favouritism to one child over another particularly if the child has special needs or new born babies or children of the same gender. According to them, disfavoured children suffer more depression, show greater aggressiveness, have low self-esteem and are poor academically.

Well, child favouritism can be traced from biblical days. Recalling the story of Jacob and Esau, Jacob was more loved than his brother, Esau by his mother. Another example is that of Joseph, who was also more loved than all his brothers by his father. This made his brothers envious of him and sold him to slavery. Thankfully, the story ended well because it all turned out for Joseph's good.

During a lunch break at the workplace,  a colleague was complaining of one of her children whom she said was a pain in the neck. She said that she preferred his other sibling because of his behaviour. So I asked whether it is impossible for parents to not have favourites?The responses got me thinking.


A colleague had said that it is impossible to love all one's children equally. She used herself as an example. She had six girls and was seriously praying to have a boy and thankfully, the seventh was a boy. According to her, she treats her only and last born son especially as a king and this kind of agitates his sisters who feel like they are not as precious as the boy. Would we blame her when in some cultures, a woman is not considered to have children unless has a male child?

Another colleague seconded the motion and chipped in that out of his two children who are twins, he also prefers the younger one because she was more outspoken, funny and problem solver. He gave instances of when he had issues with his mobile phone and the younger one was quick to proffer solutions. He also added that the younger one had taught him about social media and how to upload apps on her phone. It was not like he did not love the elder one, it was just that he naturally bonded with the younger one more.

Personally, I think showing favouritisms  starts when parents start making a comparison between the siblings. Take, for example, a mother complaining about one of her daughters that she is careless and lacks good judgement to another daughter whom she considers careful and prudent. If the scolding becomes constant, the daughter who is at the receiving end might start to feel she less loved and can not live up to her mother's expectation. She might secretly harbour hate for the other sister who appears to be perfect and wanted.

I had grown thinking that I was the least loved. Don't get me wrong, it is not liked my parents didn't love me but I just thought they loved my siblings more. So when the colleague at work, who had twin boys, said he loved one twin than the other, I was like- say what? He was like it is impossible for a parent to love their children equally. According to him, one twin was more creative, jovial and intelligent but the other appeared laid-back and less creative. He also revealed that child favouritism could also be influenced by the birth experiences/circumstances  surrounding that child.

After Sunday service somewhere around the children's church, Gertrude, a teenager, got my attention. She was moping by the corner and I was compelled to ask her what went wrong. According to her, she has been having issues with her mom lately. So what happened exactly? That was my first impulse. She said that she is not just good enough and she was doubting if she would be able to live up to her mother's expectation. I had to probe further by asking her why she thought so. Gertrude has concluded that her mother preferred her elder sister to herself. She felt it was because her elder sister was prettier, more intelligent and carbon-copy of her mum in terms of looks and character.

Knowing that I had travelled that road before, I told her that I could relate to her story. In fact, I told her that at some point in my life I had felt that way before. Instantly, her face lit up. So I went further telling her how I was able to control the situations by getting rid of negative emotions such as hate, envy, low self-esteem and sibling rivalry.

The best way I think to get over such was to see the 'alleged favouritism and comparison' as a motivating factor to be better than one is. I also added that most times one might see oneself as the least loved but truth is, parental love can not be substituted with an outsider.

Another approach would be to engage her mother or father in dialogue where she can state instances where they showed favouritism and appeared unfair to her so that they become fully aware and do the needful. Having it at the back of one's mind that everyone is unique, even identical twins, so people tend to relate to each person differently, would ease the negative emotions steaming from favouritism. That being said, parents should also strive to not make appear like they favour a particular child over the other no matter what.