Showing posts with label Bad habits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bad habits. Show all posts

Sunday, 4 September 2016



Habits are easy to form. They could also be hard to drop. I was told that it takes virtually 21 days to form a new habit. Just as there are good habits, there are also bad habits. Taking time to discuss some bad habits that could be appalling.  Would not act like am an etiquette champion but I am sure everyone can relate to what I am trying to point out.

 I have one bad habit. You can hardly watch T.V with me because I am always flipping the channels. I rarely watch a station, I would rather watch all stations that    appeal to me at a go than stayed glued to one. That way I get a bit of all stations. It is not a good habit particularly when I'm watching T.V in the company of others. To correct this anomaly, make sure I am not with the remote control.

I know of a couple that they fart amongst themselves. While some see it as a sign of openness and developing trust, this does not portray polished etiquette. I think the proper thing to do would be to take excuse and fart away somewhere in the toilet.

The one that pisses me is using the toilet without flushing. I cannot remember where I saw the inscription '' Use these toilet the way you want your life to be". In other words, if you use the toilet well, then ones life will be well and vice versa. It has not reach that level but some people do not know how to make use of the toilet. It is not nice making the toilet a mess. Sometimes, it can not be helped particularly if there is no water. No matter what it would be better to behave like a like someone civilised, abi?

There are people who once they get paid they go on shopping spree. It is the leftover that they end up saving. Before you know it they become indebted. Financial intelligence is not only about wealth accumulation. It is also virtually about self-discipline. Would pretend that I have good habits but I know I am working on my bad habits and I think everyone should too.Bad habits can be corrected with discipline.

My focus today is on bad habits. I did a short video to that effect. Kindly watch and tell me what you think *winks*

Monday, 28 September 2015

" We are together" mentality

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So you ask me what "We are together mentality" is all about? Well... It is a state of resting in your comfort zone because you have others like you-in the same state, predicament, zone, situation,problem, following the same approach....
I used to have this mentality but it has not helped at all. Realising that life is a sole race and I'm on my own has changed my mind-set.

Before now, it was when I'm going to get married and the " We are together mentality" reminds me that Sheneneh, Lerato, Paloma and Lagbaja are also not yet married so why make a fuss forgetting we are different individuals (even if we are within the same age group with different goals, stories, aspirations, journeys and destinations.

It is not just marriage alone. How about writing an exam and the performance was nothing to write home about. Would it be proper to throw a pity party with those of you that performed badly and use that to console yourself that after all many people failed so what's the noise and fretting about? How about analysing were one went wrong to do better in future rather than rejoicing that we are many that failed together.

How about going to work late because other colleagues have been doing so and keep getting away with it? The day you receive query or a sack letter then you might realise that you are accountable to yourself and responsible for your actions. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones.

There's another scenario particularly for ladies. You are in a gathering and you feel intimidated by prettier ladies. The “We are together” mentality would push one to relate ladies that one believes are their category (not so fine) so that the level of intimidation can be managed. It might not be appearance only; it could also be certificates or even exposure or knowledge or amount in bank account.
This is where I borrow the adage that" water get it own level". You don't want to fall your hand so it best you play safe and "belong". That way you know you are not alone!

"We are together” mentality is about comparisons in negative light. But coming to think of it making comparisons has never helped, or did it? Share please if it did.
"We are together" mentality does not motivate rather it encourages one to be you agree?