Showing posts with label Drama. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Drama. Show all posts

Sunday, 22 October 2017

Here is why I stopped watching Telemundo

Photo credit :Telemundo

Turning on the television,  after partaking in rigorous house chores; to cool off, the first station that came on was showing Telemundo, without thinking twice or blinking twice, I changed the channel to watch news instead.

So why did I do that with immediate alacrity? This is a tale of once bitten, twice shy. So far, Telemundos have not been able to 'help my condition'  rather they made me have a false sense of the real world.


It all started when boo and I were having serious issues threatening our relationship. Ever since, it had been lovey dovey all the way particularly when we started dating.

Then some months down the line, our relationship took some new twists and the arguments and quarrels started creeping in gradually. Determined to make our relationship work,  knowing that we are two imperfect different individuals, we resorted to sorting our differences amicably without letting it linger onto the next day no matter what.

However, all hell was let loose when I saw a different side of boo that I had never seen when we had a major quarrel and for the first time, I saw him flare up. The cool, calm, collected guy I knew, was not bulging in, he was deeply pained. Still trying to recollect what went wrong though,  but I do know things went out of hand.


At that point, our relationship was threatened. What did I do? It was not like I was totally at fault but the more I tried to make him see his own faults too and see things from my own perspective,  the more he became defensive and found it more offensive.


 A day after, we didn't talk. We were waiting for the first person to reach out to the other. Okay, so I sat down and thought things through, I had to swallow my pride and apologise even though I knew he had also offended me too.


I dressed up and went to visit him in his house. I had already mapped out what I was going to do and it was largely influenced by what I watched on television. Then, after watching a scene from one of the current Telemundos airing at that time,  I thought I could apply the same strategy learnt.


 This is what happened, the lady in the Telemundo, who  had offended her man, was able to appease him with sex. Going to her man's house, she was dressed to kill as she sought to make amends. The next thing she did was to try to manipulate him with tears and guess what? It worked. It didn't end there, she walked out on him crying, saying that if he wanted her no more, she would be fine.


That is how in this Telemundo, the guy pursued her into the streets, not minding onlookers watching them stage an 'entertaining'  drama for their view, he begged her to come back, pleading that he didn't want her to leave his life, kneeling down and all that. With all that show of love and desire, they made up just like that and the next thing, they landed on the bed?!?!


So I thought I could act that out with boo when we had issues. Omo, boo didn't fall for my tears first of all. He kept explaining and hammering on what he considered I did wrong.  I left his presence in annoyance, thinking he would run after me to come back. I walked and walked on the streets expecting him to run after me like the guy in Telemundo only to turn back to see nobody was coming after me except a corn seller,  who was running to sell corn to a customer in a moving vehicle! Just imagine??? It took serious prayer and fasting plus the intervention of our mentor for boo and I to let go and carry on.


I thought I was the only one who Telemundo affected negatively until Sunday morning, during sermon, the preacher who was speaking on relationships, said that Telemundo also 'showed him pepper'. According to him, these television series made him have the wrong expectations and perceptions of marriage.


Having watched an episode that a couple made up by passionate love making after a serious quarrel,he thought that he could apply that to his household. Then, he was newly married,and he was so eager to have his first quarrel to experience what he saw on Telemundo. So he waited for the first fight with his wife thinking that he would just grab her and plant a kiss on her lips and from there they would move to passionate love making and forget their heated argument just like that!


 In fact, it was not as easy as he envisaged, for their quarrel excavated and what Telemundo painted was very far from his expectation and what he experienced. It was a different ball game entirely. In fact he had to resort to other tested and proven methods of resolving conflicts to save his marriage.


With that experience, now, I belong to the class of women who would never bother spending their time watching Telemundo series. This is because of the unrealistic expectations they have created in my mind. Instead, I would engage myself watching something else educative or funny and not something that gives me a unrealistic expectation about marriage and relationships because what they act, does not happen in the real world.

Saturday, 5 November 2016

Frenemies(Friends + Enemies)




Shuttling from bus to bus is spiced with drama, laughter and irritation. You meet the good, the bad and the ugly. On this fateful day, the bus I boarded had a preacher.We do bump into them occasionally but this particular one struck me with his message.

He was talking about enemies( I used to think Durella and Timaya were the only ones that had enemies because they were all singing about enemies) but it is not so. According to the preacher, people had pictures of their supposed enemies and they raise prayer point against these people. He was like it was better to pray that one is at peace with his maker than pray for ones enemies to die. There was the likelihood that a person may be his own enemy and in turn pray for his/her death or downfall.

Another thing that struck me was how he gave instances of how certain professions were not human-friendly and could be potential enemies. For instance, a doctor income increases with the increase of sick people. His business thrives only in a diseased community, isn't it? The preacher made sense though.

This one is easy to relate with. The guy who sells coffins makes huge profit with the increase in the number of deaths. Does that mean that his prayer point would be for people to die so he would have customers? Your guess is as good as mine. But if he is not available who would make coffins?

Someone like me I am very happy when dollar in creases because international freelancing jobs pay in dollars and that means more money for me. Does that make me an enemy of progress??? Knowing that increase in dollar rates brings inflation in the Nigerian economy. Every Tom, Dick and Harry would want to inlfate the prices of their commodity with the dollar increase trend.

 I saw a display picture that engineering is the only profession that makes profit through solving problems. How true is this? Come to think of it, the lawyer gets busy with increased crime rates, the mechanic's business blossoms with the breaking down of many vehicles. Law Enforcement officials get working with increased crimes. If all the students were brilliant then there would be no need for teachers to teach.

Long and short of this turanchi is that all professions exist to solve a need no matter how critical they appear. And we should be careful who we tag as enemies becuase man might be his own enemy. It is best to be at peace with ones self, Maker and neighbours.




Tuesday, 20 September 2016

7 types of people in Nigerian weddings



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Saturdays have become synonymous with weddings. It is day when the groom and bride make their vows to become one and cherish each other. The whole ambience, the colours , the food, the MC, the brides family, the groom family, friends, relations etc add to the success of the day. Some blogs even rub it on the faces of single people with fairy tale weddings that they publish.  That being said, Nigerian weddings can be filled with dramas behind the scenes. Well...there are some regular people you will find at almost every wedding ceremony, here is my list:


1. The brother/Sister of the bride(groom) that is overly busy. He or She is just everywhere coordinating, arranging, running errands, serving food, organising. In short they are everywhere. All guests admire his/ her efforts and see him/her as too efficient. The award for the hard worker goes to them.

2. The glutton: These set of people forgot to eat from home so they start hustling to be served food. They forgot their manners and allow hunger to remove their dignity.  For this people, their motto is me first before others. When served, they satisfy themselves before thinking of other people at the table.

3. The Bitter Aunty: This woman assumes that every single lady present is an enemy of progress. You can’t dance with the couple because she forms an unnecessary banner over the couple. She has an issue with the fact that you are single.

4. The clique: They appear to be advantageous. They bought asoebi. They get the best of seats. They get served food on time. They receive the best souvenirs. The wedding reception was for them oo. You can't join them because they will make you feel like an out cast.

5. The Mogbomoyas (a.k.a where the party @): They are thankful that  the wedding didn't need an IV to make an entrance. These people gate crash and pretend like they were invited when we know they don't know anybody at the wedding ceremony. They blend in easily.

6. The Selfie freak: This person attended the wedding to be snapping pictures to post on social media. He/She wants to show that he or she is the owambe guy/chic. I don't envy such people from beginning to the end of the event; it is selfies all the way. Don't mind me they are having fun, abi?

7. The Networkers: They are on a business mission in a wedding ceremony. As they meet with people they are dropping their business cards advertising their make up business, fashion line, small chops business, photography hustle, souvenirs jobs etc. They do not slack as they want to make money on the go anywhere, anyhow.

Did I forget to mention a particular set of people at wedding functions? Feel free to let me in, itching to hear from you....xoxo

Thursday, 24 December 2015

2015 Epilogues: My latter shall surpass the former






 2015 ...I came, I saw and I conquered{Sounds cliche but thats the way it is( In Celine Dion's voice)}
This year was very dramatic for me. Looked like I was acting a movie script for Nollywood. It was like I played the lead role in one of  Zeb Ejiro soap operas. The story line was about one girl like that was confused.Guess I did a good job....

This year I had to question my maker.I was completely lost and questioned my purpose. I sought help from whoever came to mind.I just didn't give in until I got redirection. I drew closer to God and He drew closer to me.Kai, I never knew I was this strong.

 Amidst my search for God existence of which I found Him, this year had started off with winning a makeover. Before then I was lucky to get a goodie bag from a beauty company. It was more like a  year of winning freebies.Then I entered into a new environment. Met new people of like-minds. Made new friends,some I am keeping and some I would be dropping before next year. Remember, friendship no be by force...To my old friends, tried reconnecting with those who wanted to and those that were probably to busy to have my time...well done o

Girlfriends who got married and had to cut me off because of their new status,na so life be???Makes me wonder if I would do the same when it gets to my turn. Would I see every single lady as a threat and enemy of progress,hia!
Anyways I understand,its allowed...

2015 was spiced with disappointments. Disappointments that I thought I would never bounce back. Rejection,ridicule,carelessness,loss of weight, bitterness all made the year long. Paradoxically, 2015 turned out to be one of my fastest years so far on earth....

Thankfully, the children's laughters, the smiles received and given to brighten my day, the new and old friendships secured, family support, adding a feather to my cap,  unexpected favours, adventures, skills acquired, improvement on my blog and its recognition, being noticed even when I thought I loved to take the back seat made the year a joyous and quick one.Then finding love in places least expected made 2015 a year to reckon with.

Aha, I joined departments in church. It was transition from a church goer to a church worker. That for me was a quantum leap! Normally I would just want rest in my comfort zone but I made a decision to be more active in the House of God . It is rewarding big time!

As the year draws the curtain, I can say I am no longer the girl I was...Still I rise like garri in water

N.B Please I take una grandma beg una ( As my maths teacher in secondary school used to say to catch our attention), don't kill my blogging career #SupportTheMovement #support my blog...lolzzz
See you in 2016 by God's grace#Peace

Compliments of the season!!!