Wednesday, 6 December 2017
Who says the library is only for the 'Efikos' aka Nerds? It is 'home' to different set of people. Do you know that there are basically different sets of people you find in the library on different missions?
During examination period, the library is usually flooded with students and getting a seat could be quite difficult. This is not the case on normal days.
While some libraries are nothing to write home about, others are up to standard and world class. Besides being a building for reading, research and getting information, the library might just be another haven to get away from all the noise particularly if your roommates are the noisy type.
In a typical library, here are the types of students you are likely to find below:
1.Those who are there to keep space
Their books are kept to maintain their spaces. These students would never use to library yet they would keep space. It is either they are going for class or somewhere else. Instead of allowing someone else who is very much around in the library to use it, they would use their books and materials to deceive people that they are coming back.
It is only during examination period that these set of people remember that they have library cards. They would be the first to resume with the library workers and the last to close with them.
These set of people cannot 'come and kill themselves' because of school work. Just a book and they are off to dream land. The good thing about this set of people is that they leave the library like every other student feeling that they have read enough and made good use of their time.
4. The phone chargers
They are always with extensions and their phone/laptop chargers. Since most times, electricity supply is usually constant in the library, these set of people see as a good opportunity to boost the battery lives of their 'dying' devices.
5. 'I was here' inscriptors
They mostly belong to the final year students who about to graduate. In other to make their presence felt, they would write their names on the library walls, seats and desk just to show they were there indeed.
6. Food smugglers
There are rules in the libraries and one of them is not to smuggle food to eat there. These set of people, probably foodies, would hide sweets, biscuits, chewing gum, groundnuts, chocolates and the likes to eat in the library. On sighting any library official, they hide their faces less they are caught eating and sent out.
Slay mamas, Pepper dem gang, beard gang and every other fashion conscious individual fall into this category. You might be forced to turn your eye from your book to look at them. If you are very disciplined and don't want to be distracted, their perfume might hit you and you would have no option but to look up.
8. The Oppressors
They always have the latest edition of books and materials. They also oppress with the latest gadgets and laptop. They are solely in th library for the competition. If you don't know why you can to the library, you might end up comparing yourselves to them.
9. Those there for the freebies
They also recognise opportunities and make the best us to of it. Is it free newspaper? Or the encyclopaedias? Or free browsing sections? Not forgetting WiFi? Yes, for Internet connection to download all the necessary and unnecessary.
10. Rule breakers
The library is meant to be as quiet as a graveyard, phone calls and other form of noisy activities are prohibited. However, these set of people would still be caught making phone calls and gisting, imagine!
11. Those that never go to library
They have never set their legs into the library yet you wonder how they stil manage to get straight As. These are the same people that say they have not read and the gullible ones believe them and tag along not knowing they burn the midnight oil soaked in their books!
Sunday, 22 October 2017
|Photo credit :Telemundo|
So why did I do that with immediate alacrity? This is a tale of once bitten, twice shy. So far, Telemundos have not been able to 'help my condition' rather they made me have a false sense of the real world.
It all started when boo and I were having serious issues threatening our relationship. Ever since, it had been lovey dovey all the way particularly when we started dating.
Then some months down the line, our relationship took some new twists and the arguments and quarrels started creeping in gradually. Determined to make our relationship work, knowing that we are two imperfect different individuals, we resorted to sorting our differences amicably without letting it linger onto the next day no matter what.
However, all hell was let loose when I saw a different side of boo that I had never seen when we had a major quarrel and for the first time, I saw him flare up. The cool, calm, collected guy I knew, was not bulging in, he was deeply pained. Still trying to recollect what went wrong though, but I do know things went out of hand.
At that point, our relationship was threatened. What did I do? It was not like I was totally at fault but the more I tried to make him see his own faults too and see things from my own perspective, the more he became defensive and found it more offensive.
A day after, we didn't talk. We were waiting for the first person to reach out to the other. Okay, so I sat down and thought things through, I had to swallow my pride and apologise even though I knew he had also offended me too.
I dressed up and went to visit him in his house. I had already mapped out what I was going to do and it was largely influenced by what I watched on television. Then, after watching a scene from one of the current Telemundos airing at that time, I thought I could apply the same strategy learnt.
This is what happened, the lady in the Telemundo, who had offended her man, was able to appease him with sex. Going to her man's house, she was dressed to kill as she sought to make amends. The next thing she did was to try to manipulate him with tears and guess what? It worked. It didn't end there, she walked out on him crying, saying that if he wanted her no more, she would be fine.
That is how in this Telemundo, the guy pursued her into the streets, not minding onlookers watching them stage an 'entertaining' drama for their view, he begged her to come back, pleading that he didn't want her to leave his life, kneeling down and all that. With all that show of love and desire, they made up just like that and the next thing, they landed on the bed?!?!
So I thought I could act that out with boo when we had issues. Omo, boo didn't fall for my tears first of all. He kept explaining and hammering on what he considered I did wrong. I left his presence in annoyance, thinking he would run after me to come back. I walked and walked on the streets expecting him to run after me like the guy in Telemundo only to turn back to see nobody was coming after me except a corn seller, who was running to sell corn to a customer in a moving vehicle! Just imagine??? It took serious prayer and fasting plus the intervention of our mentor for boo and I to let go and carry on.
I thought I was the only one who Telemundo affected negatively until Sunday morning, during sermon, the preacher who was speaking on relationships, said that Telemundo also 'showed him pepper'. According to him, these television series made him have the wrong expectations and perceptions of marriage.
Having watched an episode that a couple made up by passionate love making after a serious quarrel,he thought that he could apply that to his household. Then, he was newly married,and he was so eager to have his first quarrel to experience what he saw on Telemundo. So he waited for the first fight with his wife thinking that he would just grab her and plant a kiss on her lips and from there they would move to passionate love making and forget their heated argument just like that!
In fact, it was not as easy as he envisaged, for their quarrel excavated and what Telemundo painted was very far from his expectation and what he experienced. It was a different ball game entirely. In fact he had to resort to other tested and proven methods of resolving conflicts to save his marriage.
With that experience, now, I belong to the class of women who would never bother spending their time watching Telemundo series. This is because of the unrealistic expectations they have created in my mind. Instead, I would engage myself watching something else educative or funny and not something that gives me a unrealistic expectation about marriage and relationships because what they act, does not happen in the real world.