Showing posts with label Social Media. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Social Media. Show all posts

Tuesday, 18 December 2018

14 Types of People You Find on Whatsapp Groups

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It was a painful exit, but I had to move on. Knowing I am still guilty of this till now, I have decided to make changes. It was just when I thought I was getting accustomed to the group page that was when I got the shock- they removed from the Whatsapp group just like play.




I could have heaved a sigh of relief with the action. But then, the Whatsapp groups were becoming so many and monotonous on my device. They were killing my battery with their notifications and occupying my storage space. However, after carefully thinking through, I think I didn’t do well to have at least contributed to that particular Whatsapp group because it kind of aligned with my purpose and the members were of like minds, same interest and age group.



I consoled myself that after all I had other several Whatsapp groups I was part of. But really, it could be tasking when there are so many of them and then you decide which is important to stick with. So have you been in a Whatsapp group you were not participating that the administration had to remove you?


 I came up with a list of people you find in Whatsapp group, see them below and identify yourself:


1. The Talkatives
They are the ones who run your phone battery chats with their posts whether relevant or Dr irrelevant. They have something to say. In a way, they give the group life and keep it active. One would wonder if we don't hear from them throughout the day.

2. The Cliques
When a member of the cliques makes a comment, it is hard for another outside the cliche to contribute. It is only for the known cliches. An 'outsider' that tries to join the conversation would be ignored or made to feel they said something inappropriate.

3. The Silent ones
They keep mute. The only work they do is to go through other people's posts and comments.They say nothing probably because they have nothing really to say.


4. The Anonymous
No display picture, no status update.... for crying out loud, it is social media; they supposed to be social but no they are not. They are just been secretive or some would say they are displaying a high level of maturity?


5. The Stalkers
They are there to know what members of the group are up and about. Sometimes they go through the display pictures of members of the Whatsapp group just to feed their curiosity and 'taste buds'


6. The Smileys
They rarely say anything. Most times they use smileys to convey their thoughts. They are very good with the use of smileys.


7. The Rule breakers
Most Whatsapp groups have rules and regulations that guide the group but the rule breakers take no heed. From hate speeches to inciting religious posts to blackmailing posts, they break rules until the admin remove them from the group.


8. The Private chatters
It is group for crying out loud, must they announce that they would private chat another to make others curious or left wondering? They could have silently message whoever they wanted to without letting others know what they what up to.


9. The Bored ones
They are only active on the Whatsapp group to ease their boredom. At other times, they are busy with other activities with little or no time for Whatsapp messaging.


10. The Oppressors
The display pictures are always on fleek. It is a show off of their daily or life activities. This is for mostly the fashionistas or those that engaged with many activities.


11. The Impatient ones
Yes, they are impatient. Who gets added to a Whatsapp group and after one or three posts, leaves? It is more annoying when you make a comment, and suddenly some one leaves the group. You would be like- did I say something wrong?


12. The Lazy ones
They are lazy to type. I mean, how would one still be using social media shorthand to write? That's the height of laziness. Good enough, phones have auto correct to help typing fast, so what's the laziness about?

13. The 'Shellers'
They don't want to be left out. So to show  they have a voice and are 'English professors' in their own right, they end up 'shelling' on the WhatsApp group. Sometimes they are excused because it could have been the fault of their device or autocorrect became autowrong.

14. The Latecomers
They are usually the last to chip in their thoughts so that other members of the group would record that they added their comment. They might just end up starting another chat history.

Who did I leave out? Add yours

Saturday, 3 November 2018

When The Scammer Tries To Outsmart You


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Scammers, a.k.a 419ers, have upgraded. With the improvement in technology and social media, they have devised several strategies to dupe unsuspecting victims. It is at times like this that you need to ‘shine your eyes,’ lest you fall prey.
I’m not sure how scammers get the personal information of their victims, but they somehow always have the data. Recently, I received some annoying messages asking me to call certain numbers or give away certain information. My first instinct was to cover the sender with insults. Another move, if I had the time, would have been to bless them and preach the gospel. After all, they needed a change of lifestyle.
On this fateful day, an incoming call came in from someone not on my contact list. I actually thought it was a business associate. Since the environment was too noisy, I told the caller that I would return the call.
As I promised, I called back when I got to a noise-free environment. After a brief introduction that left me puzzled, the caller told me the purpose of the phone call. It was obviously a middle-aged man. I could tell from his voice. I decided to play along, play Ms. Nice.
It was with an intense irritation that I found out that it was a scammer. How he knew my name is what I still don’t know.
So what did he actually say?
He wanted me to serve as an acquaintance to lodge in a hotel where I would meet with another ‘business partner’ to ‘seal a deal.’ They had arranged that I get a certain percentage from the supposed business meeting. However, two things were involved:
I had to provide my bank details and I needed to be available to accompany them to the business meeting.
Who was I meeting with? No concrete explanation. How did you get my number? Still no valid response. And the man wanted me to just jump on his offer. Did I mention that he tried to lure me with a mouth-watering commission? Looking at my current account balance, I might as well forgotten my home training and given in. Thank God greed didn’t get the better part of me.
Come to think of it, I would not have granted the caller audience if he didn’t call back. As soon as I suspected foul play, I ended the call, but he remained adamant and called back. After allowing him to make a fool of himself for like close to 20-25 minutes, I politely turned down the offer and moved on with my daily activities.
That is just one of the many cases. How about Facebook friend requests? How someone with whom you don’t share mutual friends finds you and sends a request is quite surprising. The painful ones are the ones who start begging for money. I almost fell for those scammers. This time around it was not from an unknown person. It was from a schoolmate whose account got hacked. I was happy to receive a message from Tina. It had been long since we last saw or spoke to it each other. Our last meeting was during graduation. We lost contact during the compulsory National Youth Service Scheme. Thank God for Facebook, we reconnected and stayed updated with each other.
For a while, she went mute. Out of blue, she resurfaced. When my phone beeped, it was a message from Tina. I was so excited to hear from her. After we exchanged pleasantries via chat. Boom! She landed. She said that she was in need of a certain amount of money. According to her, she needed the money to send to a niece. She added that she was having difficulty sending money because of network issues on her mobile banking app.
I almost fell for that scam. I almost wanted to send the money; she promised to refund the next day. But something held me back. My instincts told me that it was possible I was being played. I turned her down politely. The next day, I got a message from Tina that it was a scam. She disclosed that her account had been hacked and it had been dormant for quite some time. No wonder she had been mute on social media. She left me wondering what I would have done if I sent the money requested. Imagine the pain of being duped. Thank goodness!
Have you been scammed before? How can you identify a scammer?

Tuesday, 23 May 2017

Picking up the broken pieces


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These things  normally happen in Nollywood but no, it was live. It happened to her. It was either the guy breaks the lady’s heart or vice versa and then the  hurting one goes mad or life becomes meaningless. She neither went mad nor lost her life purpose but she felt dejected.”

They say that time is meant to heal wounds but she was unsure if she would get over knowing that her ex just tied the knots. Yes! He just made her know she was history while his wife was his present and future.
She had  had big hopes that he would return. It was her belief that they were destined to be together. They had a lot in common. They were namesakes, from the same tribe, attended Sunday school together and the attraction was there.

However, she had pushed him to the wall ignoring his constant complaints of  her annoying behaviour. To her, he would forgive her as he always did. One day, he told her that he was no longer interested in the relationship. She thought he was joking. This was the same guy who confessed to love her always regardless. May be she banked on his forgiving nature that she forgot that he was human and would have breaking points. Then, it dawned on her that she was no more his priority, his bae, his woman and his heart.

It broke her heart. For nights she cried and cried, tried to make amends through various means and channels. She went through his siblings but to no avail. She went through his mentors and friends instead they advised her to moved on that she had stretched him beyond limit.

How would she live without him? No more calls? No more chats? No more outings? No more gists? No more planning together for the future? No more visitations ? No more games? No more eating together? No more laughing together?No more pictures together? No more praying together? No more….she could go on and on….

She thought she should give him some time probably he would come around. However, things turned out for the worse. It was like she was so obsessed with him. The more she tried to win him over, the more he withdrew. He resorted to blocking her on all social media platforms when she constantly tried to communcate with him. Facebook blocked. Whatsapp blocked. LinkedIn blocked, too. Okay, he was not on twitter. Then he stopped picking her calls.

The silent treatment nearly drove her nuts but she had something else that she had to hold on to or else her life seemed meaningless. She just got admission for a Masters degree. Would she allow the heartbreak to allow the opportunity to further her studies slip away? No! She had her education to fight for too. She would still go back to school, with a broken heart though. Also, she had a career in line, she could not allow her emotions get the better part of her and allow her career suffer.

Althrough her studies and career, she was hoping that one day, he would come back and say ”I am sorry, let’s start over again” and then that one day came and she got the biggest shock of her life. She found that he was now married. Thanks to social media and other sources. She could not believe it. It should have been her in the picture with him? But No, she was not.

Wow! First it was the denial stage. She said to herself that the woman in the picture with him could not be his bride probably a friend but pictures don’t lie. She had to admit the lady appeared beautiful but was the direct opposite of her in terms of physical appearance. It was far from friendship, this picture revealed they were life partners.

First impulse was to scream but instead she sent a congratulatory message to him hoping he would read it. He had completely blocked her from his life. Sadly, they had parted ways in the most bitter manner. No form of reconciliation or making peace with ones past girlfriend(s) as some guys do before tying the knot. (Most guys are guilty of this, when they are about to get married they start calling ex-gilrfirends to make peace so that they dont go with baggage into their marriage.)

Back to her story. It has been three weeks since she got to know that he was now married. She had lost weight and the pain in her chest was excruciating.
” Will you die because of one guy?” came one advice” Remember, if you die because of a man, many better finer men would pass by your grave and say ”omashe oo”’

If not for support from family and friends, she would have been a shadow of herself. She craved for encouragement as a newborn crave for breastmilk from the mother. The future looked bleak for her. This was someone she dreamt of the future with. Would she forgive herself for stretching him too far? Would she get over her regret?Would she find someone better than him? Does she need to revenge and let him know that he has no control of her happiness? Would she continue to stalk him on social media and give him the power to hurt her the more? These and many more questions filled her mind that she barely knew the answers to.

Her career was at stake and she still hopes to further her education. She was not ready to throw all her aspirations away even though the man she thought she loved was now married to someone else. She would just take a day at a time, her life was very precious to be wasted in regret.
As she wished him well in all his endeavours, she also muttered a prayer to her God that their parts never crossed and that she looks back at this phase in years to come and have a very good laugh because she thought she would never get over it.

Tuesday, 24 January 2017

16 types of people you find on social media



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Social media is community on its own. It could be addictive. It could be enlightening. It could also be depressing and also funny. It has its  fair share of  pains and gains. Hardly would a day pass without social media drama and jibes.

 People use social media for different reasons; some to relax and others to be updated with latest news. Some even use social media to catch-up with old friends and so on. 

However, there are people that are not even into social media and surviving and getting their grooves on - Respect to them!

That being said, here is my list of certain people that you find on social media and they include:

1. The stalkers
These set of people love going through people's pages to know what they have been up to, where they at and who they are with? I think the exes mostly fall into this category. Stalkers are also diehard fans of celebrities, the people who are crushing on someone and enemies too fall in this category - they want to know if you doing better than themselves.

2. The opportunist
These people don't waste time. They use social media for business activities. They have something to sell, an idea or skill, they put it up on social media. No time for play play, it's strictly business.

3. The jokers
Their motto is life is too short to wear a frown. They are always making jokes online. Is it updates, memes, breaking news or photos, they are just too hilarious. We need them after a long stressful day.

4. The oppressors
Shout out to the ride or die chics/guys out there. Today it's dubai, tomorrow it's a boat cruise in the Caribbean. They rocking latest designers wear. From head to toe, they smell money. To add to your envy, they seem to get all the likes and comments... Phew!

5. The family-oriented
To them family is everything. They appear to have the perfect life with lovely partner, cute children, good jobs and all. You really admire them and sometimes feel envious when they start posting pictures of their family and all.They should be #FamilyGoals.

6.The over schooled
As much as you try to understand what they are posting, you cannot seem to get grip of the direction/message of their post. Their analyses are too complex spiced with big grammars. Most times it is to waka pass or scroll down.

7.The boring
They are better off keeping quiet because your reaction to their posts would be like Duh! So what's this one saying now???

8. The motivators
They are always posting inspiring messages and sermons. You need them in your spiritual walk so as not to backslide.


9.The Atheist
They believe there is no God and religion has been and would always be an issue for them. They open to debates on whether there is God oo or no God.

10. The silent
I'm still trying to understand this people. No profile picture, no posts but they are always online. Ladies without any form profile picture  are major culprits. Why the hidden identity??? Something fishy or they have their reasons best known to them.

11. The news breakers
Even before CNN gives the breaking news, these set of people know what's happening are the first to dish trending news. They have their ears to the ground and don't slack. They have their niches be it sports, local news, entertainment, movies, foreign news. Some are well rounded.

12.The competitors
When someone posts a photo, they would post their own. If someone makes a comment, they make their own too. To this people, it is more  of a competition than a social platform of people. 

13.The favour seekers
They bug you with endless pleas for favours and most times it is for financial assistance. You won't blame some in need of jobs and so they deem it best to disturb influential people for assistance.

14. The post and delete
When nobody comments or likes their posts, the next thing is to delete it sharp sharp. I think they are controlled by people's reactions.

15. The noise makers
They bombard your time line with their posts and photos as if they are the only ones in your friend lists. Sometimes you wonder if this person has a life outside social media.

16. The rude ones
These are the people that are too lazy to type or communicate effectively. Someone is celebrating her/his birthday instead of typing '' happy birthday'' instead they type '' hbd'' and the likes. You know now! They are experts in short-hand.

Did I leave any other set? Please join the conversation

Sunday, 19 June 2016

Dear Diary...




Are women their worst enemies? ( ImageCredit: daily.co.uk)


Dear Diary,

Are women their own worst enemies? I heard this somewhere but can't place it.  As rhetoric as the question is, the truth is it still has an answer. Talking with guys, they were quick to admit that women are quick to run one  another down. it is like we have given men the power to alter a woman's countenance, all they have to do is to shower another woman with attention and compliments then you would see how the "other" woman reacts.

 Sometime ago in secondary school, two girls were fighting. Cant really remember what the bone of contention was but it was quite serious because both girls were getting physical.  So a guy stepped in to separate them. He just said something and that was what ended the fight. He was like una dey fight for who chest big pass abi??  Those of us watching busted into  laughter. The two fighters somehow separated and ended their fight.

 Recently, social media went ablaze with the pre-wedding photos of a couple. It was kinda different. The bride-to-be was on the big side and her man opposite. Trust relationship experts, they had already dissecting the outcome of such union. For crying out loud, the groom-to-be had made his choice and went ahead to show the  world. That was a bold move. The comments that poured in were largely from the women folk. Some of them were thought is best for the bride-to-be should slim down or stand the risk of loosing her man. What should have been obtainable would have been to wish the couple the best of marital bliss but some bad belle women took it upon themselves to make scathing remarks.

Daily billboards, magazines, television programmes etc. bombard us with the ideal image of a woman. Some women strive to be a look-alike of what the media has presented to them, forgetting that they can only be a wanna-be or photocopy not the original. Trust me, it is unending struggle trying to be someone else when you can feel free to be the best version of yourself.

Truth is from day one, a woman is being made to attach beauty with values-the beautiful ones land the best jobs, the beautiful ones attract the opposite sex, the beautiful ones get more attention, the beautiful ones are more favoured. Beauty sells, image is basically everything in today's world. Well...beauty is not a bad thing but when it is in form of competition or trying to meet up to a particular standard then wahala dey.

Ayi Kwei Armah had said the beautiful ones are not yet born. That is another debate for another day. I would never estimate the essence of being presentable and beautiful but it is distasteful if the carrier has an ugly heart, rude character and bad manners. Proverbs 11:22 makes it clear that a beautiful woman without discretion is like  a gold ring in a pig's snout. I am a work in progress myself, I would not pretend to know it all. Both content and container are important in branding.

 Naturally it is characteristic of a woman to engage in social comparisons.Women don't need to fight each other over who is more endowed or not, who is prettier or not, who gets more comments and likes....  There is space for every one of us...

 Yours Truly,
  Omote Ro Dhe